Not Sure How To Support Your Partner?
It can be challenging to support your partner as you may not even know how to process your own feelings as you come to terms with an unplanned pregnancy.
Before talking to your partner, a great first step is to talk with someone you trust about all the emotions coming at you right now. There is a peace that comes with sharing your heart with others. This way, you are more prepared to talk with your partner and not overreact.
What To Do
Talk with her and listen to her. Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you at all times. Try your best to not close yourself off emotionally because this situation involves more than just you.
- Be there for her. She needs you now more than ever before. In addition to keeping the lines of communication open between you, discussing the situation with parents and others who’ll be directly affected is essential. Keeping this a secret will only add to the stress – yours and hers.
- Educate yourself. Collect information and seek advice from people you trust. Be honest with her and yourself.
- Own and share at all times how you feel. You’ll be surprised at how much it will help her to know that you share the same concerns. You’ll be surprised at what you learn about yourself. And you’ll be proud that you’re standing tall together.
What Not To Do
Don’t run from your responsibilities. The more you try to avoid this situation, the more complicated things will get. Be sure not to pressure your partner to do what you want. You both need to work together at all times. You’re a team now.
Don’t stop communicating with her. Express your feelings and add your input whenever it’s needed.
Support for Men
Along with offering support for women facing unplanned pregnancies, we are here for men too!
Talk with a client advocate about your unique situation in a safe, nonjudgemental environment. Feel heard today.
We offer free resources if you decide to parent, including fatherhood workshops, parenting support, and a men’s group.